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The Craziest Questions I've Been Asked as a Boudoir Photographer

boudoir photographer Mike Cassidy

Greetings. I’m Mike Cassidy, a seasoned boudoir photographer, and trust me when I say I've seen it all. From the elegant to the unusual, I have captured intimate moments in ways I never could have dreamt when I first picked up a camera. The world of boudoir photography, my friends, is as unpredictable as it is beautiful, as creative as it is challenging.

Now, what does a boudoir photographer do, you may ask? It's about capturing intimate, romantic, and sometimes erotic images of its subjects, usually but not always in the privacy of a bedroom setting. However, it’s not as straightforward as it seems. The magic lies in creating a space of trust and comfort, which often leads to rather unexpected, humorous, and even mind-boggling situations.

In this field, each day brings something new, and every client adds a different color to my palette. That's the thrill of it! You might think the life behind the lens is all about technical skills and professional equipment, but it's the human side of things that often brings the most surprise. And surprise, my dear readers, is the reason we're here today.

I’ve decided to invite you into the more eccentric corners of my work life. Today, I'll share with you some of the craziest questions I've ever been asked as a boudoir photographer. I’m not talking about the run-of-the-mill queries like “What should I wear?” or “Can you retouch this?” No, my friends, we're going far beyond that. I'm lifting the veil on requests that have left me stumped, flabbergasted, and above all, thoroughly entertained.

Sit back and brace yourselves for a roller coaster ride into the wacky, wild, and wonderful world of boudoir photography. We're about to take a step out of the ordinary and into the extraordinary. Let’s go!

boudoir photo of a woman in lingerie leaning back on a bed

Understanding Boudoir Photography

Now, before we embark on this journey of jaw-dropping questions, let's lay down some groundwork. Boudoir photography - it’s a term derived from French, meaning a woman's private room or bedroom. It's a genre that stands on the twin pillars of trust and intimacy, designed to capture subjects at their most vulnerable yet empowering moments.

You see, the beauty of boudoir photography isn’t just about shooting people in their lingerie or undergarments. It’s much more than that. It's about helping people - of all shapes, sizes, and walks of life - discover and embrace their sensuality. It's about capturing the soft whispers of silk sheets, the intimate moments of solitude, and the daring gaze of a person comfortable in their skin.

For me, every boudoir session is like stepping into a new universe. Every client carries their world, their vision, their fantasies. And my job, as their photographer, is to make these visions come alive. One moment I'm working with a demure damsel wanting to gift her partner a stunning photograph, and the next, I have an adventurous spirit asking for a shoot in a gothic mansion!

But even as we aim for these beautiful moments, there’s a peculiar side to this profession. Imagine this - you're dealing with people in their most intimate settings, helping them showcase their sensual side, and along with that comes a plethora of unique, sometimes downright hilarious, requests. This is what keeps my work not only captivating but also full of surprises.

So, in a nutshell, boudoir photography is a world where sensuality meets creativity, under the watchful eye of the trust between the photographer and the subject. It's a world where every day is unpredictable, filled with wild requests and even wilder scenarios. But let me tell you - it’s these moments that add the burst of color to my monochromatic photographer’s life.

Now that we have our feet firmly planted in the understanding of boudoir photography, let's march into the realm of the unforeseen. Fasten your seat belts, folks - you're in for one heck of a ride!

boudoir photo of a woman in blue lingerie laying in a bed

The Questions

Alright, folks, this is the moment we've been building up to. The truly mind-bending, eyebrow-raising, laugh-inducing questions I've been asked during my career. Here we go.

"Can you photoshop my ex out of the picture?" - Now, this is not your regular retouching request. Picture this: a beautiful woman walks in, ready for her shoot, brings out a stunning picture of her in a glamorous gown, with a beautiful backdrop. Everything perfect, except for the arms wrapped around her. Those belonged to her now ex-boyfriend. Her request? To keep everything but magically make the ex-boyfriend disappear from the image. It wasn't a boudoir photo (it was her own photo she brought along), but the request was so unique, it caught me off guard. You see, photography does involve a bit of magic, but not the Hogwarts kind!

"Can I get a few shots with my pet iguana?" - Pets are family, I get it. Dogs and cats in a photo? That's not uncommon. But an iguana? That’s a first! The lady wanted her exotic pet to be part of the shoot. --And she sort of showed up with it... unannounced. The surprise on my face must have been a sight. We managed it, though, and the result was a blend of elegance and exoticism that was truly unique. After a similar situation with a snake-- I sort of added a "please no live critters" section to my booking info. 😂

"Can we shoot me covered in blood?" - Just when I thought I'd heard it all, this question popped up. I'm one to always think of a way to say yes, and this one did take a bit of thinking-- but hey, creativity has no boundaries. With a bit of planning, and some quick day-of brainstorming, I came up with a way get this done that worked for the client and her goth-inspired idea.

"Can you clone me so I can be my own partner in the photo?" - Well, this was a request I didn't see coming. The idea was innovative, to say the least, and presented a unique challenge. It took some pondering, planning, and some nifty camera tricks. But we managed to pull it off, creating a surreal image of the client being in a photo with herself. A fascinating exercise in narcissism? Maybe. A fun, crazy idea to work on? Absolutely!

"Can you make me look like I'm on the moon for my shoot?" - When this question hit me, I knew I wasn't just a photographer anymore - I was a transporter of dreams. The client's desire to embrace the lunar mystique was an extraordinary request, but with the right props, lighting, and post-processing magic, we created an otherworldly boudoir photo that was truly out of this world.

"Can you make me invisible, but still visible in the photos?" - I remember blinking in surprise as I heard this. The client wanted to be visible but also invisible. A conundrum, right? After a few moments of confusion, I realized she was asking for a blend of abstract and boudoir photography. The idea was to make her presence felt through shadows, silhouettes, or perhaps objects. It was a difficult yet intriguing task that pushed my creative boundaries to their limits. But guess what? We nailed it, and the results were truly extraordinary!

"Can I have a boudoir shoot with my collection of antique dolls?" - This question was, without a doubt, one of the most unusual ones I've ever encountered. The lady was a passionate collector of antique dolls and wanted them to be a part of her boudoir shoot. It was a request that was as odd as it was interesting. But, embracing the challenge, we created a unique atmosphere that combined sensuality with a touch of the eerie beauty of these antique figures.

"Can we have a session in a hot air balloon?" --Heights and photography can be a stunning combination, but when you mix boudoir photography and a hot air balloon ride, you're in for a ride of a lifetime. --Well... it never came to fruition, but my heart was pounding, not just due to thinking about the heights, but also from the sheer excitement of how to pull this off. With a bit of logistics magic, safety measures, and plenty of nerve, could I have pulled off this boudoir shoot? Unknown... it's still literally "up in the air".

Now, if you're chuckling or shaking your head in disbelief, trust me, you're not alone. These requests made me do the same. But that's the joy of being in this line of work - every day brings a new surprise. And whether they make you laugh or scratch your head in confusion, they all add to the richness of the experience. So, let's carry on with our journey, shall we?

a smiling blonde woman

How To Handle Crazy Requests

Navigating through the labyrinth of wild and wacky client requests. As you can see, the world of boudoir photography is far from ordinary. But how do you handle such out-of-the-box requests? Well, let me guide you through my approach to tackling these curveballs.

First and foremost, it’s essential to maintain professionalism. Now, when a client asks if you can make them invisible yet visible in their photos, your first reaction might be to laugh out loud. But remember, it's a genuine request from their end. They have a vision, however unusual, and it's your job to bring it to life. So, stifle that chuckle and listen. Really listen to what they're asking for. The key to creating memorable images lies in understanding the client's vision, even if it sounds like it came straight out of a Salvador Dali painting!

Next up is flexibility and creativity. When a client wants to include her antique doll collection or dreams of a hot air balloon shoot, it's not a time for limitations but an opportunity to expand your horizons. This profession, after all, is a blend of skill, creativity, and a sprinkle of madness. Embrace the challenge and think outside the box. Use your skills to create something that's not just aesthetically pleasing but also resonates with your client's vision.

Sometimes, these requests might push your technical capabilities to the brink. But see this as a chance to learn and grow. When asked to create a moon-like setting for a shoot, I had to experiment with various lighting and post-processing techniques (and at the time a wonderful graphic artist.) It was a journey of trials and errors, but eventually, I was able to create a lunar fantasy right here on Earth. Remember, every unique request is an opportunity to develop your skills and expand your creative repertoire.

And let’s not forget safety! For those wilder requests, like maybe a live creature, always ensure that safety measures are in place. Never compromise on this, no matter how enticing the artistic concept may be.

Finally, the most important thing is to have fun! Yes, these requests can be crazy and even a little overwhelming at times, but they are also what make this job so exciting. Embrace the wild ideas, enjoy the creative process, and remember, it's these unique experiences that help you grow as a photographer and create stories that are truly one-of-a-kind.

So, there you have it. The world of boudoir photography is as unpredictable as it is beautiful. And as we journey through this wonderland, these crazy, creative, and sometimes perplexing requests only add to the charm.

a woman in white lingerie laying in bed


Well, folks, we've journeyed together through the rollercoaster of my boudoir photography career, taking in the highs, the lows, and the downright bizarre! From hot air balloon rides to antique dolls and pet iguanas, we've covered some ground. And all the while, I hope I've shown you a glimpse of the eccentric, exciting, and endlessly creative world of boudoir photography.

This is a profession that breaks boundaries, pushes the envelope, and consistently surprises, not just with its creativity but also with its capacity for sheer, delightful absurdity. As you can see, it's not just about clicking a shutter; it's about embracing the unexpected, treading uncharted territories, and always being ready for a wild ride.

I believe every question, no matter how crazy, has its merit. They are not just requests; they are a peek into the client's imagination, their dreams, and their deepest desires. It's these oddballs that bring in a dash of fun, a pinch of challenge, and a whole lot of character to my job.

However, at the end of the day, boudoir photography is about creating a comfortable space where people can embrace their sensuality and be themselves. It's about creating art that empowers, uplifts, and celebrates every individual's unique beauty, even if it means shooting in the company of an iguana or creating a clone for self-admiration!

In this whirlwind of a journey, it's crucial to maintain an open mind, a flexible approach, and a good sense of humor. After all, creativity, like laughter, is contagious, and it's these unpredictable moments that make my job so very rewarding.

So, here's to the crazy questions, the impossible requests, and the unending surprises. Here's to the world of boudoir photography, in all its glory and all its madness. And remember, no matter how wild the ride gets, it's all about embracing the moment and capturing the magic, one frame at a time.

It's Your Turn...

Alright, it's Mike again, and we're nearing the end of this wild journey. By now, you're aware that boudoir photography isn't a walk in the park, but an exhilarating rollercoaster ride full of surprises. However, if there's one thing I want you to take away from this, it's that these experiences, no matter how peculiar, are what make my job truly extraordinary.

Now, perhaps you're a budding boudoir photographer, ready to dip your toes into this intriguing world. Or maybe you're a potential client, toying with the idea of stepping in front of the camera for a boudoir shoot. Whichever the case, I encourage you to embrace the unexpected, cherish the unique, and most importantly, have fun with it. Boudoir photography is as much about the journey as it is about the end result.

For all you aspiring photographers out there, I'd love to hear your own stories of wild and wacky client requests. Or, if you're just starting out, don't hesitate to reach out for advice, tips, or even just a friendly chat. Photography is a community, and there's always something to learn from each other. Drop a comment below or connect with me on social media - I look forward to hearing from you!

And for those of you contemplating a boudoir shoot, don't let the fear of the unknown stop you. Remember, this is your story, your fantasy, your time to shine. So why not make it as unique, as exciting, as completely 'you' as possible? If you've got a wild idea, I'm all ears. Whether you want a moonlit setting, a shadowy silhouette, or a hot air balloon adventure, let's make it happen. Your imagination is the only limit!

So, as we wrap up, I invite you to be a part of this incredible journey. Step into the world of boudoir photography - embrace the surprises, enjoy the process, and let's create something truly unforgettable together. Until then, keep those creative juices flowing and stay tuned for more tales from the wild side of boudoir photography!

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