I Booked a Cuckold Boudoir Shoot... And Here's What Happened!

This is an account of one woman's boudoir story. Names have been changed to protect privacy. Images used are not the images of the client.

Let me start by saying I’m not particularly fond of the term "cuckold boudoir." It’s a label that carries a lot of preconceived notions, and it doesn’t quite capture the artistry or intent behind these sessions. That said, not much surprises me anymore in the world of boudoir photography. Over the years, I’ve worked with clients from all walks of life who bring their unique visions to the studio. But I’ll admit, when requests for these types of sessions started popping up about six or so years ago, it gave me pause. At the time, I had to stop and ask myself, "What exactly does this entail?"

Being someone who likes to fully understand what I’m stepping into, I asked a lot of questions. What were these sessions about? What was the purpose behind them? My initial reaction was a mix of curiosity and unease. It’s one thing to capture intimacy between partners; it’s another to navigate the dynamics of inviting a third person into the session. I hesitated to book these shoots at first because I needed to ensure I approached them respectfully, professionally, and with everyone’s comfort in mind. As I learned more about what couples were looking for, my perspective started to shift.

It seems that these sessions have become a bit more mainstream over the past few years, and as a photographer, you have to adapt. At their core, cuckold boudoir fantasy sessions are about a married couple’s mutual interest in capturing intimate and artistic moments of the female partner posing with another man. For some couples, these photos hold deep personal meaning; for others, they’re a form of creative expression. In any case, I’ve noticed an increase in inquiries about this type of session, and I see it as a reflection of something bigger. Women are becoming more comfortable expressing their sexuality and documenting it in ways that feel authentic to them.

For me, ensuring full consent and comfort is non-negotiable. I made it a personal rule early on that I only book these sessions after speaking directly with the wife. This allows us to talk through the concept, ensure everyone involved is on the same page, and confirm that all arrangements are made with mutual agreement. When handled thoughtfully, these sessions can be as empowering and beautiful as any other boudoir shoot, celebrating the unique dynamics of relationships and the confidence of the individuals involved.

So, now that you know a bit more about these sessions, let's take a first hand look at one client's story...

Pt. 1 What Led to the Idea of a Cuckold Boudoir Session

I’ve been happily married to my husband for ten years. We have a strong relationship built on love, respect, and a lot of laughter. My life is what most would call pretty normal—maybe even boring, in the best way. I’m a vice president at a food processing company, so my job takes up a lot of my time and energy. I try to squeeze in a Pilates class here and there, and I love to travel when I can. I’m not much of a party person, and honestly, I don’t think either of us ever thought of ourselves as particularly adventurous when it came to the bedroom-- if anything I probably have a bit more of a sex drive than my husband. But then, something unexpected happened on one of our vacations that planted a seed of curiosity neither of us could ignore.

It all started at the hotel bar, where my husband and I randomly met another couple who seemed a lot like us. They were friendly, down-to-earth, and easy to talk to. We ended up sitting together for a few hours, sharing stories and laughs. At some point, the conversation took a turn that caught us completely off guard. The wife, with her husband sitting beside her nodding in agreement, revealed the reason for their stay at the hotel. She explained that as a birthday gift, she had agreed to let her husband watch her with another man—a decision they both made together. They had just met the "other man" at this very hotel to carry out the experience.

At first, my husband and I just listened, a little stunned. The wife spoke candidly about how she felt leading up to the decision, admitting she had been a bit unsure but ultimately excited. She kept emphasizing how much she trusted her husband and how the idea of doing this for him, with boundaries in place, felt right for their relationship. What struck me most was how she talked about the whole thing as if it was no big deal—like it was just another way to connect with her husband. She even said, to her own surprise, that she had way more fun than she thought she would.

That night, back in our hotel room, the topic naturally came up again between my husband and me. Fueled by a few drinks and the intrigue of what we had just heard, we started talking about the idea of a “cuckold” experience. Neither of us had ever considered anything like it before, but we both hesitantly admitted that the concept was... intriguing. We left it at that, chalking it up to an interesting vacation story. But a few months later, my husband brought it up again. This time, he asked if I’d ever really consider trying something like that. At first, I wasn’t sure. But then I thought about how happy it seemed to make the couple we met and how positively the wife had described the experience. Eventually, I agreed—not just because I love making my husband happy, but because, deep down, I was curious too. And that’s how the idea started to take shape.

Pt. 2 How It All Came Together

Well, with my husband’s birthday approaching, the cuckold idea was lingering in the back of my mind. The concept intrigued me, but how could we even begin to pull something like this off? Like most people searching for answers, I turned to Google. 🤣 At first, I was just trying to learn more about the whole concept, but somewhere along the way, I discovered that some women didn’t just experience this—they documented it with photography and videography. That’s when I stumbled across Mike’s website. I didn’t know what I was expecting, but in a moment of bravery, I decided to give him a call.

Admittedly, I felt awkward at first. I didn’t even know how to ask about what I had in mind. But after a few minutes of chatting, Mike made me feel at ease. Eventually, I worked up the courage to ask, “Do women ever come in to do photos with a man that isn’t their husband?” He reassured me that it was more common than I might think and that I wasn’t the first person to inquire about this kind of session. I launched into a flurry of questions: How do these sessions work? What do most women do? Mike explained that some sessions were pretty tame, while others could get a bit spicy, depending on the person’s comfort level. That answer put me at ease—I wasn’t looking for anything extreme, and knowing I could set the pace made me feel much more comfortable.

Of course, the big question remained: How do you find the other guy? That part felt tricky. I didn’t want to choose someone we knew personally—after all, part of the excitement came from the mystery of it all— at least to me!

Mike assured me that everything could be taken step by step. There was no need to commit to anything I wasn’t comfortable with, and the session could evolve based on how I felt along the way. As my wheels started turning, I became more intrigued. Was I bad for thinking this? LOL. But then came another decision: Did I want my husband to be there during the session, or should it be a surprise for his birthday?

Ultimately, I decided to tell him about my plans. To my surprise, he liked the idea more than I expected. At first, he wasn’t sure if he wanted to be there for the session or wait to see the photos as a surprise. After some thought, though, he decided to come along as moral support. That left us with one final piece of the puzzle—the “other guy.” As it turned out, that part came together more easily than I had imagined.

One of my husband’s friends had a buddy who seemed perfect for the role. We had met him briefly at a recent get-together and thought he had a great personality—and he was attractive, too. My husband handled that conversation, so I’m not entirely sure what he said to the “other man,” whom we’ll call Steve. Imagine that conversation! LOL! According to my husband, Steve was hesitant at first but eventually agreed to help us out. I was thrilled—Steve seemed like the perfect choice. With everything coming together, I couldn’t believe we were actually doing this. It looked like my husband’s birthday was shaping up to be one he’d never forget!

Pt. 3 The Boudoir Session Day

The day of the session finally arrived, and to my surprise, I felt more excited than nervous. I’d packed all my outfits the night before and was ready to go. My husband and I drove to the hotel where the shoot was taking place, planning to meet Steve there later. After chatting with Mike during our initial call, we thought it would be fun for my husband to watch some of the session and save parts of it as a surprise for his birthday. He loved the idea, and honestly, it made me feel more at ease having him there.

When we arrived, Mike greeted us warmly, and the morning began with hair and makeup. It took about an hour, which was a nice way to ease into the day. We did an outfit review, and Mike and I talked about the plan—or rather, my lack of one! I hadn’t given much thought to specific poses or ideas, but Mike reassured me he had that covered. One thing I knew for sure was that this session wasn’t going to be some kind of extreme "sex romp." It was all about creating artistic, implied, and stylish shots that felt comfortable and fun. Mike emphasized that the goal of these sessions is to stay within your comfort zone and enjoy the process. It’s completely normal to feel a little reserved at first, but he was great about letting the session evolve naturally, step by step.

One of my favorite parts of preparing for the session was buying new outfits. I splurged on some super sexy Honey Birdette lingerie sets that I couldn’t wait to wear. They were just drop-dead hot. I also brought a cute black dress that I loved the idea of pairing with Steve’s suit for some formal "undressing" shots.

The first part of the session was just me, and I have to say, I felt like a total diva. Mike has a knack for making you feel completely at ease and even entertained during the shoot. Before I knew it, I was fully relaxed and loving the experience. Posing in my elaborate outfits made me feel like a Playboy model, and I was soaking it all in.

Steve arrived about an hour into the session, giving me time to focus on solo shots and even sneak in a few photos with my husband. When Steve walked in, I could tell this was going to be fun. We started with the formal shots—me in my dress, him in a suit—and worked our way into an undressing routine where he watched as I took off the dress. The chemistry was playful and easy, and soon we moved to poses together. We kept it classy but flirty, with him undressing me and eventually posing together on the bed. By this point, I felt completely at ease and was honestly surprised at how much fun I was having.

At some point, I decided to send my husband out to keep the rest of the session a surprise. It was then that things got a bit more daring. I did some poses with Steve that went beyond my original plan, showing more skin than I’d initially intended. But in the moment, it felt perfectly fine. Steve was a complete gentleman and made the process enjoyable, which only added to the positive vibe. Mike worked his magic with camera angles to mimic some more "adult type" poses without anything becoming too explicit.

When the session wrapped up, I was walking on air. It had been such a fantastic experience, although I’ll admit, holding those poses for hours was more of a workout than I’d expected! When I got home, I took a long nap, but I couldn’t deny that all the physical attention and energy of the day had left me in quite a mood. That night, my husband and I shared one of the most, um, passionate 😉 evenings of our marriage—something about the session had reignited a spark between us. I mean it was good.

As Mike said, keeping the photos and the memories a secret until my husband’s birthday might be the hardest part, but I wouldn’t change a thing about that incredible day.

Pt. 4 Reflecting on the Experience

I absolutely loved my photos. With Mike’s guidance, I was able to create a stunning photo album that I gave to my husband as a birthday gift. But I had one more surprise up my sleeve—during the session, I also filmed a few sexy videos. Watching those together later was an amazing experience for both of us. The gift was a tremendous hit, and it felt so rewarding to see how much my husband appreciated it. Beyond the photos and videos, though, what surprised me most was the lasting impact the session had on our relationship. It brought this new level of energy and excitement to our connection, and it’s something that’s stayed with us ever since.

When I think back on how this all started, it’s hard to believe it actually happened. A chance conversation with a couple we met on vacation planted the idea in my head, and somehow, I turned it into an adventure of my own. It’s funny how life works. If you’d told me a year ago that I’d be doing something like this, I probably wouldn’t have believed you. But something about that night—listening to that couple talk so openly—sparked a curiosity in me and my husband that we couldn’t ignore. The key for us was doing it on our terms, and I couldn’t be more grateful for how it all came together.

That being said, this isn’t something I plan to turn into a lifestyle. It was a one-time experience, and that’s exactly what made it so special. My husband even asked if I had told any of my friends about it, and I hadn’t. But it’s interesting to think about—maybe someday, in the right place and time, I’ll share my story with another couple who might be inspired to explore something new for themselves.

I know this type of experience isn’t for everyone, and honestly, I never would’ve considered it if not for that random vacation conversation. But for us, it was a completely positive experience, one that strengthened our relationship and created unforgettable memories. For the right couple, something like this could be a spark that reignites a connection in such a fun and unexpected way. I’m so glad we worked with Mike, and I’ll treasure this experience—and the photos—for the rest of my life.

Conclusion

I want to thank Kristen for sharing her experience with such openness and honesty. It’s always fascinating to hear how a simple, chance interaction can spark such a unique and transformative journey. When I first started boudoir photography, I never imagined I’d be hosting sessions like this, but over time, it’s become clear that cuckold boudoir shoots are a growing trend.

What I’ve learned is that these sessions aren’t necessarily the wild, over-the-top experiences people might imagine. At their core, they’re boudoir shoots—designed to be intimate, artistic, and tailored to your comfort level. As Kristen so perfectly described, they’re about creating a fun and meaningful experience, not about turning the studio into an adult movie set.

If Kristen’s story has sparked your curiosity or if you’d like to learn more about what a cuckold boudoir session could look like for you, I invite you to visit my Cuckold Boudoir Session page for more details. Whether you’re ready to dive in or just want to explore the idea, I’m always happy to answer your questions and help guide you through the process.

Thank you again, Kristen, for allowing me to share your story—it’s a reminder of how boudoir photography can be so much more than just photos. It’s about creating moments, memories, and connections that last a lifetime.

If you have questions about a cuckold boudoir session, and would like to chat. You can reach out to me on my Contact page.